As we go through life, things are going to be changing all of the time. We’ll go down so many different paths that will take us on a different journey — among these is our weight loss journey. I think our weight loss journey is as much about endings as it is about new beginnings. And it’s important to remember that in life while sometimes a few doors will close, it doesn’t always need to be the end. One door will close, and another one will open.
This is the way that I now practice to get myself through life’s challenges. I used to stress over the minor things in my life, rather than looking at the bigger picture and what life is going to offer as a whole. A mentor once told me, “Look at where you are headed, not at what you are leaving behind.” That’s not always an easy thing to do, but reaping the reward is certainly worth the effort.
So, if as you navigate your weight loss journey, you feel as though a door might be closing on your life, here are a few things you can do to make sure another one opens. Life is, after all, about the journey — because the final destination is the same for all of us. So enjoy the ride. And take this advice to heart that I received from The Landmark Forum: The meaning of life is to give life meaning.
Relationships along Our Weight Loss Journey
Relationships are the hardest one to try and deal with. When a relationship comes to an end, it can often feel as though there is no other direction in life that can be taken. Everything to do with your life might feel as though it has been halted, but that’s most definitely not the case. Keep moving forward. There is light after the darkness. This I know for sure.
When it’s a relationship breakup that involves a marriage, things can become a little more tricky, and it might definitely feel as though you’re never going to find someone again. However, with the simple help of a divorce attorney, the process can be started and finished before you know it. Just take a deep breath, detach, and let the attorney do the heavy lifting.
Even though you might feel as though you’re never going to meet anyone else again, that’s not the case. The new door that is going to open for you is going to be one that gives you more happiness than the previous, and one that lets you move on with your life.
Try and deal with the whole process as maturely as you possibly can. One of the reasons why people can’t find a new door to open is because the maturity levels during a divorce drop, and it’s dragged out for much longer than it needs to be. Lawyers largely exist because people cannot think critically and because they cannot get along.
Work after Weight Loss
Work is a pretty stressful situation. There’s never going to be a job that’s perfect, unless maybe of course you’re working for yourself, which is what I did for years.
Sure there’s always going to be someone that you don’t get along with, and there’s always going to be something that you don’t like doing. But if you’re really that unhappy with your job, my best advice is to go and find something new! There’s plenty more opportunities out there that will give you so much more job satisfaction than you’re having at the minute. All you need to do is have the guts to leave the job you’re hating. Weight loss often gives us the self-esteem to stop enduring a bad situation and move forward with confidence into the unknown.
New Chapters in Your Weight Loss Journey
New doors equal new chapters, and by new chapters I mean things like getting a house for the first time. Leaving your old life in the comfort of your parents home — or perhaps like me you are leaving your own home that you’ve lived in for years. If so, take this opportunity of going on a new journey in a new home an exciting one. There are so many new places to explore and people to meet and things to do.
Make sure you try as many new chapters and adventures as possible. And may your weight loss journey be one of defining a life you love. Life is too short to be missing out on new things!
Living larger than ever,
My Bariatric Life